- Tram Ho
One of the stories often mentioned in the occasion of the New Year’s youth, it is increasingly boring. “Tet atmosphere is no longer the same as before”, responsibilities and pressures make us no longer look at Tet with a carefree attitude. Not to mention, it seems, more and more young people feel lost in their own extended family every Tet. Read the article written by An Anh Vu on MXH Lotus, about the story of Tet when becoming an adult in the family.
“Did you come back this Tet? What day did you come out?”
“Yes, Mom, but I’m also very busy, it took me until the 28-29 lunar calendar to come out”
“Uh, remember to stay healthy. You can ask my mom and I when I come home from time to time. I only get to see each other a year.
Hang up the phone of the mother, the clock on the computer screen is also more than 9 pm. Looking through the glass window of the company building in the center of Saigon, the lights from the tall buildings, the headlights of the motorbikes reflected a gloomy color, making me feel the surroundings were slow. again. As a Hanoi child, I suddenly felt restless, miss and crave the cool Tet atmosphere at home. Surely around the time of this New Year, everyone is busy darkening the nose, but it is just trying to expect the feeling of going home, about to be gathered with family and relatives in moments sacred when time enters the new year.
What did my mother say? Well Mom mentioned the cousins. When was the last time I saw my siblings? It seems that the last time was a few months ago I had in Hanoi, my grandfather’s death anniversary but that night I had an appointment with the brothers on the company, so at noon just came to greet the doctors a bit. The cousins in the family were busy at the time, so they stopped by at night. That night, I still remember that when I was eating with the company, my mother called: “Where are you? Can I go back? Everyone is asking me this question, so I haven’t seen you for a long time. “. At that time, I was only afraid to reply, “Yes, but I’m busy, so I’ll come back to meet you later.”
After that, when I finished that sentence, I also felt bad because the occasions when relatives could gather together only had the anniversary of the death of grandparents and ancestors, the number of times in a year was enough to count on one hand. . For adults like our parents, the occasions when relatives have the opportunity to sit down and gather together are so precious and cherished. And for young people like us in the trend of modern times and the whirlpool of livelihood, we are gradually feeling lost, disconnected with family members.
Why do we feel like that?
Now a question for you: “If you had a chance to meet, between friends / colleagues and family members, who would you choose to meet?” When I ask this question to friends around me, the tendency to choose to meet friends / colleagues often dominates. Why are we making such a decision? Simply because most of the time in our daily lives, we are most exposed to social relationships. Working every day, from 9 am to 18 pm are colleagues, but after a tired working day or weekend to enlist the energy for the new work week, meet friends to get eight things to do You feel much more comfortable. Thereby, the link between you and social relationships also increases. You feel more connected and comfortable when sharing with them, the level of understanding and sympathy between the two sides is also deeper, there are many topics that the two sides can talk and discuss.
As for siblings, relatives, the time we stick with them is probably the array of memories and memories from childhood. I still remember vividly when I was 7-8 years old, when my grandmother was alive and well, her beautiful little family home was a true “gathering place” of the “mischievous grandchildren” every last I was busy with my parents at work, and I sent my nephew to look after my nanny. The siblings together at that time all ate, slept, rebelled against each other, shared nothing, including the whipping of grandmothers. I think each of us has had the good fortune to experience such a beautiful childhood.
But nearly twenty years later, everyone has grown up. Everyone will be different then everyone has their own family and career. We are busy with our own lives and gradually lose our connection with family and relatives. Time makes us feel more distance between ourselves and them. When we get to meet people again, we find it difficult to talk to each other, or the interchangeable questions we think in our heads are so cliché and polite.
I have a friend who confided: “I was kicked out of family groups because I didn’t show up or attend any family gatherings. I personally don’t feel like feel free to do the things I don’t like, and I don’t feel the familiar familiarity when meeting relatives. Sometimes they have too personal questions that annoy me. ” I then asked him if he had a chance, would you like to reconnect with people? My friend paused for a few seconds thinking wistfully: “I don’t know, but for me at the moment I don’t feel the need, maybe later growing up, I’ll think differently.”
But is that the case? What is it that the young generation we think and feel like are right in today’s social context? To be fair to say, I think with the liberal ideology of modern times, what young people think like that is sympathetic, but not really comprehensive and complete.
We have to admit that when we think like that, we are putting our own priority and comfort first. We are forgetting our role and duty as a cell, as a piece, as a member of a big family. Indeed, no matter how big you grow, your business and your grandiose career, eventually you still need to return to the roots of your family, where you were born and raised. As you grow older, you will realize there are stories or events that you cannot confide in to your social relationships, at which time only your family and loved ones would not mind. when helping you. Paternal blood is still something very sacred.
As you grow older, you will realize there are stories or events that you cannot confide in to your social relationships, at which time only your family and loved ones would not mind. when helping you. Paternal blood is still something very sacred.
Two years ago my grandmother died. The day she died was the day when all the family, relatives, and siblings were gathered. I met my cousins, no longer the nagging kids with my grandmother like before, everyone rolled up their sleeves to take a job. The feeling when doing, everyone just enlisted to ask each other, share the difficulties in life, causing childhood emotions to rush back. The spiritual affection of the family, the spiritual attachment that is nowhere to be found, makes me suddenly understand a little more about the true meaning of family bond.
When you put on the boots of an adult, when you put yourself in their minds and positions, I gradually understood why my mother told me that. It was not a blame, nor was it a responsibility that forced me to do it, but it was just a message to help me realize what the importance of family affection is.
Every New Year comes, as adults like us complain of boredom, the older we are, the more we want to avoid these days because we feel uncomfortable when we meet family and relatives. But perhaps, we are really forgetting the true meaning of Tet – a rare occasion in the year when you can gather with your loved ones’ families. This year, I will try to be more open and proactive when meeting people again, you won’t lose anything when you try to do that, right? Maybe we will have more memorable experiences and memories during this Tet holiday.
Source : Genk